Real Friends and Fake Friends

A real friend and fake friend can be hard to distinguish, but they are very different! Fake friends might as well be scum of the Earth for all the support they will give you. Friendship is one of the best aspects of life. That said, certain friends are certainly much better than others. Real friends are people you can go to for anything. You know they will always be on your side, through thick and thin. Use this guide to figure out if your friends are your real friends!

1. Support you in all your achieve

A real best friend will encourage you with anything that you try! Whether it be taking up square dancing, or changing your career path, a real friend will be there every step of the way.

2. Forgive you for anything

Sometimes you royally screw up. With fake friends, a mistake can cost you a friendship. Real friends will know that sometimes you’ll mess up. They will forgive you because they value your friendship more than your (temporary) mistake.

3. Love your dorky personality

We all have those dorky things we do on a regular basis. A real friend loves those things! In fact, if they are a true real friend they just might join in with you!

 

4. Always have your back

It isn’t a matter of who is on the other side, what the issue is, or if you’re in the wrong – a real friend will stand by you no matter what. They always are on your side and will fight for you with no questions asked. That’s just what a real friend does!

5. Let you explore your interests !!

As we grow, we discover new interests, and sometimes they seem very unlike ourselves! Fake friends will make fun of you and tell you to stick to the status quo. “cue High School Musical song” A real friend will let you do your thing and encourage you to explore this new part of yourself.

6. Know all your little quirks

We all have little quirks about ourselves (IE: we are cranky in the morning, we get flirtatious when drunk, we eat too many dinner rolls, etc.) that only our true friends know about. No one else knows you quite like your real friends. The fact that they notice those little quirks about you is a good sign!

7. They constantly keep in contact

Fake friends will only contact you when they need something or want to know some juicy gossip. Real friends will contact you wherever and whenever because they are always interested in what’s going on in your life. They don’t have to know the latest gossip about your relationship. They might just want to know what you had for lunch today.

8. They keep your secrets

If you can trust anyone to not gossip around town about your dark little secrets, it’s your real friends. Fake friends will treat your secrets like it’s nothing sacred. A real friend values your confidence, and will not tell anyone.

9. Don’t have to dress to impress

If you have to put on really nice clothes, do your hair, and make sure that you smell nice just to hang out – then you know you have fake friends. A true friend will let you come over in sweatpants with unwashed hair. The worst they might do is make a joke, but they won’t really care at all. They just want to spend time with you. Real friendship is measured in how gross you can look when you hang out!

10. They make time for you

It doesn’t matter if they only have an hour between work and their pottery class, a real friend will let you come over for a drink any time. It isn’t a matter of time, it’s a matter of they want to spend time with you, rather than having time to themselves.

11. Always have a shoulder to cry on

A big difference between real and fake friends is how they deal with your ups and downs. If you’re feeling down, a fake friend will pat you awkwardly on the shoulder and try to change the subject. Your real friends will wrap you in their arms and listen to you blubber all night, if you want them to. Real friends are there for you, whether you’re happy or sad.

If you’re trying to decide whether your friends are genuine or not, hopefully this guide helped you decipher which kind of friends you surround yourself with! It’s time to get real.

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Life !!

Life is a characteristic distinguishing physical entities having signaling and self-sustaining processes from those that do not,either because such functions have ceased (death), or because they lack such functions and are classified as inanimate. Biology is a science concerned with the study of life.

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The smallest contiguous unit of life is called an organism. Organisms are composed of one, or more, cells, undergo metabolism, maintain homeostasis, can grow, respond to stimuli, reproduce and, through evolution, adapt to their environment in successive generations.A diverse array of living organisms can be found in the biosphere of Earth, and the properties common to these organisms plants, animals, fungi, protists, archaea, and bacteria are a carbon- and water-based cellular form with complex organization and heritable genetic information.

The Earth was formed about 4.54 billion years ago. The earliest life on Earth existed at least 3.5 billion years ago,during the Eoarchean Era when sufficient crust had solidified following the molten Hadean Eon.imagesg

Though life is confirmed only on the Earth, many think that extraterrestrial life is not only plausible, but probable or inevitable.

Other planets and moons in the Solar System have been examined for evidence of having once supported simple life, and projects such as SETI have attempted to detect radio transmissions from possible alien civilizations. According to the panspermia hypothesis, microscopic life exists throughout the Universe, and is distributed by meteoroids, asteroids and planetoids.

The meaning of life its significance, origin, purpose, and ultimate fate is a central concept and question in philosophy and religion. Both philosophy and religion have offered interpretations as to how life relates to existence and consciousness, and on related issues such as life stance, purpose, conception of a god or gods, a soul or an afterlife. Different cultures throughout history have had widely varying approaches to these issues.

A friendship Story !!

Once upon a time, there were 2 friends “Tuan” and “Tuin”. they were very close friends. They go to school together, eat together, play together. On one fine Sunday, both of their parents were out. so Tuan visited Tuin’s house and they planned to party as school was off and parents were out. They made all the planning for the party and decided to prepare “Pitha” for the main course. Pitha is an Indian traditional food.

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Around 12 pm both went to the market for purchasing the grocery. They thought of taking a short-cut and so entered the forest. And they were supposed to pick sticks and logs for creating the fire, that was also the reason for entering the jungle. While picking sticks, they heard a strange sound. It was the roaring sound of the tiger. He was the only tiger of the jungle and the villagers were very afraid of it. They used to call the tiger as “Tiger Uncle”. Tiger Uncle roared at Tuan and Tuin very furiously. He then shouted that I’m going to kill and eat both of you. I’m very hungry. Tuan and Tuin both stated crying.

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Tuan was very clever and suddenly an idea st-rucked his mind. He said to the tiger that, please don’t kill us now. We are making a party and we are going to prepare Pitha. Wouldn’t you like to eat those tasty pithas and after finishing pitha you can kill us. And moreover it will be our previlage if you come to our house as chief guest. Tiger Uncle liked the idea. He thought that I’ll be the chief guest and would get more attention. I would eat those tasty pithas and finally can eat these boys. He then said yes I agree to your plan. I’ll be at your home around 2 pm. And Tiger Uncle left. Tuan and Tuin then both finished their purchasing and returned back to home.
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They started preparing Pitha. Tuan prepared the first pitha Tuin ate that and Tuin made the second pitha and Tuan ate that. Like that they finished eating all the pithas. Them suddenly Tuin shouted, Oh God, we have finished all the pithas, now what we will offer Tiger Uncle? Tuan said, chill Tuin, don’t worry, today we will teach Tiger Uncle a lesson. He said lets go the the backyard, he then asked Tuin to bring a mat. Tuan placed the mat on the well and said we will ask Tiger Uncle to seat on it and when he will seat, he will fell into the well. Tuin was very happy with the plan.

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Then finally, Tiger Uncle came top their house. Tuan then invited tiger inside the house and said, there is a power cut and it’s too hot inside, lets go to the backyard and seat. We have arranged a very special place for you. Tiger Uncle was very happy and went with then to the backyard. They reached near the well, then Tuan said Tiger Uncle you please take your seat on the mat, we will serve you. Then when Tiger Uncle sat on the mat, he immediately fell into the well. Tuan and Tuin shouted very happily as they trapped the furious tiger.

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They ran outside the house and called the villagers ans said what all happened. Villagers were very happy with the boy’s brave act. Villagers were also very happy as the man eater tiger was traped, they congratulated both the boys and left. The next day, the zoo keeper came and took the Tiger, the Chief Minister came and awarded Tuan and Tuin for their bravery and friendship. Tuan and Tuin became very popular, their parents were also very happy. Villagers created a park on Tuan and Tuin’s name. Till now people uses to give examples of Tuan and Tuin for their friendship and bravery.

By Nepoleon

Friendship – How to make new friends !!

Making new friends can be difficult but also rewarding. Life events, such as moving to another neighborhood, starting a new job or having a baby, can isolate us from our former support group and make developing new friendships more important than ever. Some tips can help to make new friends over time.

Tips on Meeting People and Building Friendships

Good friendships improve all aspects of your life, providing comfort and joy, strengthening your health, providing companionship, and preventing loneliness and isolation. As we age, many of us struggle to make new friends or maintain old friendships. Work, family, and other commitments can all get in the way. While making and keeping friends requires effort, it’s an investment that will make your life richer and more pleasurable. Whatever your age or circumstances, it’s never too late to make new friends or reconnect with old ones.

Friendships are an important part of life, but many of us find it difficult to find, make or keep friends. Life events, such as moving to another neighborhood, starting a job or having a baby, can isolate us from our former support group and make forging new friendships more important than ever. In other cases, shyness or poor social skills can prevent us from taking the first step in forming a friendship. This article offers practical suggestions that may help you to expand your social circle or reinforce the relationships you already have.

You may want friendship, but what kind of friend would you make? Factors to consider include:

Attitudes to others – we can drive potential friends away by demanding they share our attitudes, beliefs or behaviors. If you accept that other people have a right to be different from you, then you open yourself up to the possibility of experiencing relationships that bring a fresh perspective to your life.

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Treatment of other people – think about how you like to be treated, then offer the same to the people in your life.

Don’t expect instant results – good friends aren’t made overnight. Sharing your deepest secrets in one night won’t necessarily create a close friendship. It may even drive the other person away. Take it slowly. Divulge ‘safe’ secrets first, and allow the relationship to hold some weight before you share the meatier issues in your life.

Curb the urge to criticize – constantly griping about the failures and weaknesses of other people can make your listener feel wary of you. How do they know you aren’t complaining about their flaws to other friends?

Don’t gossip – potential friends aren’t going to trust you if you constantly gossip to them about the trials and tribulations of other people in your life.

Don’t compromise yourself – each one of us has standards of morality and behavior. Don’t allow yourself to compromise yourself for the sake of ‘fitting in’ with a group.

Sometimes it can be difficult to differentiate between real friends and mere acquaintances::

An acquaintance is someone you exchange small talk with as you go about your day, trade jokes or insights with online, or chat about sports with in a bar. While most of these relationships will never progress beyond an acquaintance level, with effort, real friendships can blossom from online contacts, people you meet on social media sites, or from neighborhood or work acquaintances.

A friend is someone who shares a deeper level of interaction or communication with you; he or she is someone you can really connect with, face-to-face. A friend is someone you feel comfortable sharing your feelings with, someone who’ll listen to you without judging you or telling you how you should think or feel. As friendship works both ways, a friend is also someone you feel comfortable supporting and accepting, and someone with whom you share a bond of trust and loyalty.

Things to remember

Life events, such as moving to another neighborhood, starting a job or having a baby, can isolate us from our former support group and make forging new friendships more important than ever.

Participate in work social functions, join a hobby group or volunteer for charity work.

Friendships need love, time, attention and trust if they are to survive.

Thanks…

Nepoleon

Love Without Limits !!

What Is Love?
Love is inherently free. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded.

Love is bigger than you are. You can invite love, but you cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself. You can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself loving people you don’t like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addendum’s, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires.

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Love is a force of nature. However much we may want to, we can’t command, demand, or disappear love, any more than we can command the moon and the stars and the wind and the rain to come and go according to our whims. We may have some limited ability to change the weather, but we do so at the risk of upsetting an ecological balance we don’t fully understand. Similarly, we can stage a seduction or mount a courtship, but the result is more likely to be infatuation, or two illusions dancing together, than love.

One can buy sex partners & even marriage partners. Marriage is a matter for the law, for rules and courts and property rights. In the past the marriage price, or dowry, and in the present alimony and the per-nuptial agreement, make it clear that marriage is all about contracts. But as we all know, marriages, whether arranged or not, may have little enough to do with love.

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Love is inherently free. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded. You cannot make someone love you, nor can you prevent it, for any amount of money. Love cannot be imprisoned nor can it be legislated. Love is not a substance, not a commodity, nor even a marketable power source. Love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output.

One can buy loyalty, companionship, attention, perhaps even compassion, but love itself cannot be bought. An orgasm can be bought, but love cannot. It comes, or not, by grace, of its own will and in its own timing, subject to no human’s planning.

Love cannot be turned on as a reward. It cannot be turned off as a punishment. Only something else pretending to be love can be used as a lure, as a hook, for bait and switch, imitated, insinuated, but the real deal can never be delivered if it doesn’t spring freely from the heart.

Love cares what becomes of you because love knows that we are all interconnected. Love is inherently compassionate and empathic. Love knows that the “other” is also oneself. This is the true nature of love and love itself can’t be manipulated or restrained. Love honors the sovereignty of each soul. Love is its own law.

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If love comes from appreciating goodness, it needn’t just happen, you can make it happen. Love is active. You can create it. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). If you can do this easily, you’ll love easily.

Nepoleon !!

Friendship: The Laws of Attraction

The conventional wisdom is that we choose friends because of who they are. But it turns out that we actually love them because of the way they support who we are.

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If you really want to change an aspect of your life, finding like-minded friends will increase your chances of success
I’ve been immersed in the study of friendship for the past several years, and among the many things I’ve learned, one idea stands out: If you truly want to change some aspect of your life, developing friendships with people who aspire to the same goals as you do.

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Entering The Friendship Zone

Years ago researchers conducted a study in which they followed the friendships in a single two-story apartment building. People tended to be friends with the neighbors on their respective floors, although those on the ground floor near the mailboxes and the stairway had friends on both floors. Friendship was least likely between someone on the first floor and someone on the second. As the study suggests, friends are often those who cross paths with regularity; our friends tend to be coworkers, classmates, and people we run into at the gym
Why Some (And Only Some) Friends Stick

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Once a friendship is established through self-disclosure and reciprocity, the glue that binds is intimacy. According to Fehr’s research, people in successful same-sex friendships seem to possess a well-developed, intuitive understanding of the give and take of intimacy.
Hefty helpings of emotional expressiveness and unconditional support are ingredients here, followed by acceptance, loyalty, and trust. Our friends are there for us through thick and thin, but rarely cross the line: A friend with too many opinions about our wardrobe, our partner, or our taste in movies and art may not be a friend for long.

 
The Truth About Best Friends

If closeness forms the basis of friendship, it stands to reason that your best friend would be someone with whom you enjoy supersized intimacy. We have with our best friends a “beyond-the-call-of-duty” expectation. If we suffer an emergency—real or imagined—and need to talk, we expect our best friend to drop everything and race to our side.
We become best friends with people who boost our self-esteem by affirming our identities as members of certain groups, and it’s the same for both genders. Men who derive their most cherished identity through their role as high school quarterback, for instance, are most likely to call a former fellow teammate “best friend.”

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Most of us would prefer to think that we love our friends because of who they are, not because of the ways in which they support who we are. It sounds vaguely narcissistic, and yet the studies bear it out.

 
How To Stay Friends

From young adulthood onward, our notion of what makes a good friendship changes very little, but our capacity to maintain one does. It’s a poignant reality; we know what it means to be and have friends, but after we graduate from college and go our separate ways—launching our careers, getting married, having children, getting divorced, caring for aging parents—we’re often unable to muster the time and energy to maintain friendships we profess to value. Like anything else in life, if we want to remain friends with someone, it requires a little work. Simply put, we must show up.

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The last and most elusive behavior necessary for keeping friends is being positive. Social psychologists tout the necessity of self-disclosure, but that doesn’t mean an unrestricted license to vent. At the end of the day, the intimacy that makes a friendship thrive must be an enjoyable one, for the more rewarding a friendship, the more we feel good about it, the more we’re willing to expend the energy it takes to keep it alive.

By Nepoleon

A Memorable Valentine’s Day

Hello friends for all the hype surrounding Valentine’s Day, the truth is that most guys get by doing the bare minimum for their significant others. This year, to prove your partner wrong, treat her to a complete and well thought-out evening she won’t forget. Cause generally, women say they receive relatively ordinary treatment during most of their Valentine dates. We’re talking about the intangibles here the forethought and care that money can’t buy, but that matter to her more than any expensive Valentine’s gift. To make this evening a memorable one, spoil her with the little things that she probably forgot even mattered to her.

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Prepare for the date

Special date will require you to clean up nice. It might be a good idea to buy yourself a new shirt or sweater, something you know she’d like even if it’s not exactly what you’d wear if it were up to you. Think about it: how do you react when she buys a new sexy dress? Once you are dressed and ready to go, stop at the local flower shop to buy her a dozen of the best-looking red roses. Go ahead and pop a breath mint before you show up. She’ll smell the mint and know you took that extra step, and she’ll love it. Yes, this applies even if you’re married.

While doing so, present her with the roses and a hello kiss. These little details of opening the car door and handing her roses might seem like fussy details to many men, but for Valentine’s Day, this is the crucial stuff, the stuff she remembers and tells her friends about.

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Getting the restaurant right

Opt for a small and quiet restaurant instead of a busy, mainstream one, and good lighting is key. Make reservations at least 2 weeks in advance to get a table at the ideal time. She’ll love you for choosing a low-light or candle-lit environment that she feels most attractive in. Don’t go somewhere that plays loud music, like a supper club or a trendy new restaurant where people wait three-deep at the bar before their tables free up. You need to be able to hear each other speak.

Once you’ve settled in, perused the menu and ordered your first course and drinks, turn your focus completely to her. Instead of asking her about mundane daily activities (how’s work? how was your week?), start a conversation focused — without being overbearing — on her needs. Ask her what she likes to eat or drink. Ask her what her future plans are. In other words, tailor the conversation around her the entire evening.

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When entering the restaurant, take care of opening the door and asking the host to be seated. Taking care of such simple details like opening the door and letting her in before you will set the evening apart from conventional dates. Many might say these details are exaggerated and useless, but women generally like a man with good manners.

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When coffee and dessert is being served, find out what she feels like doing next. Pick up the tab, and head back out to whatever next step in the night is waiting for you.

Nepoleon !!!